Do you know, what happens when a girl reaches 25 and she couldn't get married? Her nervous system begins to break down. Her nervous system is weakened. By 30, she can't control herself and becomes hysterical. By 35 she's lost all hopes in this dunya and she starts to complain to Allah ......
This happens to the deeni Allah-Fearing Girls. Even deeni girls are then forced to do things that they wouldn't dare think about if they were married around 20.
And not every girl/woman in the world is as fortunate as you to be blessed with a nice husband, nice home, great children. PLEASE think about your Muslim Sisters whose Husband died leaving behind 3 children and her. Can you please put yourself in her shoes for ONE min. Only one min. I beg you to put yourself in her place for just One min and think. All of a sudden, you have no husband, you have 3 children, you have no qualifications, you are just a woman, you have stayed at home all your life, you don't know how to deal with men, you don't know how to talk with anyone except your husband...
All of a sudden, he left you ... all alone in this world ... Now you sit and cry ... When you regain your consciousness after 1 month ... These thoughts blow up your brain ... What will you do? Where will you go ??? You don't have a house... You were living on rent .... You have three kids to look after... Your father has already died. Your brother is married, he won't look after you.. Your mother is too old to support you...
What would you wish here at this moment?
After 6 months of living off selling your jewelery that your beloved husband bought you, you will turn towards your brother. You see he's too poor to help you. You wish you get a husband even if you live as his fourth wife! But....... Ta'addud is HARAM, it's worse than Zina. A nice molvi sufi brother sees your condition and he gathers courage to marry you as his second. He proposes you. You start to see some light. You become happy. You thank Allah. He promises you that insha'Allah after a week he will do Nikah with you...
But ....
A week passes, a month, an year.. nothing happens.. You ask around, where is that brother?
You find out that he went to his mother and told her that he is marrying again. His mother said to him, I will not forgive you for doing it. He informed his wife, she said I'll take a divorce if you do this, He went to his sister and looked up to her for some support. She said, If you do this, I will never talk to you again in my life .....
Then you are left to face the dark winds of the world yourself.....
Now tell me what you will do here?
You have nothing left, you've sold everything... You don't have any jewelry left.
You will take your children to the railway track and lie there with your kids so that the train kills you and you are relieved of all this nonsense.
Or
You will be forced to sell your honour to feed your children.....
End of story, you end up in Jahannum either way. You faced a Jahannum in this Dunia and you will face a Jahannum there.
The Molvi brother will enjoy a peaceful, fitnah-free jannat with his wife and kids in this dunia, and he's going to Jannat in the other too. Everyone will be happy, they saved him from a big evil fitnah. His wife is happy without a Co-wife. His mother is happy that her nose wasn't cut in the society. The sister is happy that she wouldn't get insulted by her in-laws because her brother got another wife.
And not every girl/woman in the world is as fortunate as you to be blessed with a nice husband, nice home, great children. PLEASE think about your Muslim Sisters whose Husband died leaving behind 3 children and her. Can you please put yourself in her shoes for ONE min. Only one min. I beg you to put yourself in her place for just One min and think. All of a sudden, you have no husband, you have 3 children, you have no qualifications, you are just a woman, you have stayed at home all your life, you don't know how to deal with men, you don't know how to talk with anyone except your husband...
All of a sudden, he left you ... all alone in this world ... Now you sit and cry ... When you regain your consciousness after 1 month ... These thoughts blow up your brain ... What will you do? Where will you go ??? You don't have a house... You were living on rent .... You have three kids to look after... Your father has already died. Your brother is married, he won't look after you.. Your mother is too old to support you...
What would you wish here at this moment?
After 6 months of living off selling your jewelery that your beloved husband bought you, you will turn towards your brother. You see he's too poor to help you. You wish you get a husband even if you live as his fourth wife! But....... Ta'addud is HARAM, it's worse than Zina. A nice molvi sufi brother sees your condition and he gathers courage to marry you as his second. He proposes you. You start to see some light. You become happy. You thank Allah. He promises you that insha'Allah after a week he will do Nikah with you...
But ....
A week passes, a month, an year.. nothing happens.. You ask around, where is that brother?
You find out that he went to his mother and told her that he is marrying again. His mother said to him, I will not forgive you for doing it. He informed his wife, she said I'll take a divorce if you do this, He went to his sister and looked up to her for some support. She said, If you do this, I will never talk to you again in my life .....
Then you are left to face the dark winds of the world yourself.....
Now tell me what you will do here?
You have nothing left, you've sold everything... You don't have any jewelry left.
You will take your children to the railway track and lie there with your kids so that the train kills you and you are relieved of all this nonsense.
Or
You will be forced to sell your honour to feed your children.....
End of story, you end up in Jahannum either way. You faced a Jahannum in this Dunia and you will face a Jahannum there.
The Molvi brother will enjoy a peaceful, fitnah-free jannat with his wife and kids in this dunia, and he's going to Jannat in the other too. Everyone will be happy, they saved him from a big evil fitnah. His wife is happy without a Co-wife. His mother is happy that her nose wasn't cut in the society. The sister is happy that she wouldn't get insulted by her in-laws because her brother got another wife.
- ( Shaykh Madni )
Masha Allah
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